Believe me, I have been there… Trying to appear calm confident and relaxed, smiling, making eye contact and having a firm (but not too firm) handshake, while on the inside my heart was racing, there was a knot in my stomach and every fiber in my body was telling me to flee while I still could…

Then there was the dreaded ‘small talk’: weather, sports, current events…anything but talking about why I was really there i.e. to find potential clients. In my professional capacity I have always prided myself of getting to the bottom line in the most efficient manner possible, in taking the shortest line from A-Z. On the one hand really wanting to help clients and knowing that I had the capability to do so, and yet somehow feeling like a phony when I schmoozed.

Inevitably there would come that ‘deer in the headlights’ moment when someone would ask me ‘so, what do you do?’ Invariably I would sputter some kind tongue-tied elevator pitch that would be somewhere between unintelligible technical jargon and cheesy sales pitch. I would see the eyes glaze over, the subject would be changed and my 15 seconds of fame would be wasted.

How was it that I could have a unique ability and genuine passion for helping clients and yet be so unable to effectively share this with people socially?

Then I found the key to The Matrix…

After 10 years as an accountant in the financial services industry I had honed a highly specialized skill set in optimizing the complex tax and financial matters of incorporated professionals & business owners. Yet I had to watch as time and time again others who seemingly had much less too offer their clients nevertheless made all the money and lived a lifestyle I could only dream of. To make a long story short I hit the wall, threw it all away and started from scratch.

I had a Luke Skywalker moment, wandering through the proverbial galaxy, seeking wisdom and training wherever I could find it. I researched systems, consulted networking gurus, studied psychology, hobnobbed with professional pick up artists and hypnotists. Along the way I also met countless other professionals who shared their own, albeit similar, stories of frustration with networking. Then one day in a dark swampy corner of the internet I met my own personal Yoda in the form of the renowned UK hypnotist Anthony Jacquin.

Over the next year we worked together to unravel and reconstruct the inner workings of my mind, wrestled with my inner demons, watched my life as I had known it crumble around me and finally saw the light at the end of the tunnel. I emerged as the best version of myself, having finally freed the person I had always felt locked up inside, wielding the light saber of transformation and imbued with The Force of limitless possibilities.

Now, I want to share it with you…

Believe me, life is better on the other side. I wish someone had taught me this stuff 15 years ago but the good news is, you don’t have to wait that long…